How are you finding everything? I imagine some parents are happy that the stress of school is over for a bit, even if you are trying to home school. Others are probably starting to tear their hair out.
We’ve had ups and downs! I’m trying to lower my expectations so we can actually achieve more. I know that I’m lucky as I work from home anyway, so it does make it a bit easier. I also value time by myself and I’m not managing to get much of that. My son tends to be awake pretty much the same hours as me, so I do have to make sure I get some alone time.
Tips to help you
This week I thought I’d share some tips to help make this time easier. As you’ll know not all the tips will work for everyone, you’ll need to personalise them to your family’s needs. Hopefully, they give you some ideas if nothing else.
- Have a plan. If you have a plan of what you are going to do it takes away lots of the stress. The plan will depend on what works for your child. No two plans will look identical and where your children have differing needs that does make it a bit hard to plan, but arguably more important.
- Put a schedule up on the wall. I draw out the week on a piece of paper and then put into each day what we are doing. Our schedule doesn’t have loads of detail as my son doesn’t need that now but having it up helps him know what’s happening when. You don’t need to share the whole thing with your children yet, but having it helps reduce that ‘what are we doing tomorrow’ stress. Do what works for you.
- Plan in your self care. Even just a few minutes a day reading, breathing or walking around the garden. Crossing something off your to do list counts as well. It’s doing something that is important.
- The kids will be fine if you don’t do ‘proper’ learning every day (or at all). You don’t need to have your kitchen laid out perfectly as a little school with all the pencils sharpened and a stack of worksheets to do.
- Build some down time into your schedule for all the family. Have a PJ day every so often so everyone can chill out. Some kids need time daily, others struggle with unstructured time, so do what works. I do think that chill out time is important so they can just sit and watch TV, draw, build Lego or whatever works. If we are constantly on the go it gets tiring.
- Don’t be afraid to say yes to new things. You never know how it will go. Our children are growing and developing all the time so new things can become possible.
- Keep up the parental presence. It’s easy with the change in routines for it to slip, but keeping it up will definitely help.
- Relax! Children sense our anxiety, so we need to be as relaxed as possible.
Give yourself a break
I hope these ideas help you. Remember, things are strange at the moment. It’s scary, weird, worrying, anxiety raising, stressful and tiring.
Don’t try to be Superwoman or Superman. You can only do so much. It’s OK to curl up on the sofa and watch films (thank you Disney Plus for launching ). It’s OK to not feel OK. Talk to your kids about how you feel, talk to them about how they feel. Give yourself a break and leave the superhero costume for another day.
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